I’m writing blog entries on my phone and a tad sleep deprived so I apologise for lack of punctuation etc.
Now before I start please bear in mind that there is no simple and quick fix to recover from depression or any other mental health problem. These tips are what helped me pull through some of the darkest moments of my life. My case was slightly complicated because I didn’t have depression on its own.
You have to get through the difficult stuff before it starts to get easier. Life is full of painful situations.
1. See a doctor. Ask for therapy and be willing to give it a go. Be open to take medication and make sure that you take it when you need to. Remember – In a lot of cases medication is a short term solution for a long term problem.
I really thought that therapy didn’t work for me but now I realise that I practise the skills without even thinking about it.
Therapy is NOT a quick solution. It takes a while to master the skills and you have to give it your all. You have to want to get better and nobody else can do it for you. You will only recover if you do it and put the effort in. Nobody else can actually do much other than support you and help guide you. You have to be the one to use the skills.
2. Ditch alcohol, drugs and caffeine. If you have a problem with any, make sure to seek advice from your doctor first.
3. Try and find enough strength to let go of anything negative. Negative people, negative situations and negative thoughts. This is easier said than done but it is essential.
Look at the individual problems that are making your life difficult. Will this problem still be a problem in 5 years? If the answer is no, then let it go. If it’s yes, try and problem solve. A good way to plan how you are going to tackle a problem is to write a plan down on paper and think of step by step solutions. If you can’t find a way to fix a problem then try and get others to help and get involved. Get help and advice from relevant organisations and listen to what people have to say. Try not to brush advice off.
Block people on social media that are abusive, horrible or have a negative impact on your life. There might be a time in the future where you may be able to forgive and forget.
4. Try and go for a walk, exercise, sit in the garden, find somewhere beautiful to just sit and enjoy fresh air. Ask yourself some questions when you are outside. For example, what colours can you see? What can you smell? Focus on blue and green colours. Buy some lavender and rosemary – these are great to sniff! Essential oils (especially lavender) are good to put on a handkerchief or piece of tissue and sniff when you are anxious.
5. Set goals for the future. This one is quite difficult to do in a negative mindset. Start small and gradually make the goals bigger. Goals can be things like:
- Finishing school and education
- Cleaning and ticking off each completed chore
- Getting to your ideal healthy weight
- Saving for something you really want
- Making new friends and meeting new people
- Working on your dream career
Write a list of things you would like to do every year. Tick off each thing when you have done it. The year won’t be great unless you make it great. Life won’t hand you a good year on a silver plate, you have to plan and do something about it. Life is too short to mess about and to tell yourself that you will get around to doing it tomorrow. Write down what you want to do and find a way to do it. Tomorrow is never promised! Do it NOW! 🙂
Also, a lot of people believe that they can’t get their dream job. YES YOU CAN! The internet is a great thing. Work on yourself, your education and other things will click together. Don’t give up! Even if it means starting from the bottom.
Try not to be disheartened if you don’t complete your goals. Everyday is a new opportunity so don’t give up!
6. Every time a negative thought comes into your head, turn it into a positive one as fast as you can. Don’t spend too long thinking about it. This takes a while to master but it gets easier the more you do it. If you can’t think of anything positive then think of goals you have set and how you are going to complete them.
7. Block out the past and focus on the present and future. Every time you think of a negative past situation, change what you are doing.
8. Be kinder to yourself. Eat well, sleep well (try to) and pamper yourself. Have a bath, eat something that you really enjoy (in moderation) and try to look after your appearance.
9. Find positive people. This can be easier to do on the internet with some forums and self help websites. Look into groups and clubs and take yourself out of your comfort zone. 10. Volunteer or find people to help. Helping others makes people feel good!I wish you all the best 💗